Dating a guy with low self esteem
After all of my waiting and hoping, he broke it off with me because he had found another woman he wanted to pursue more seriously.
All of a sudden, it wasn’t that he was insecure—it was that my success had inadvertently caused his condition.
I had internalized the belief that strong women scare men, and I was compensating for my big, bad success by doling out chance after chance after chance.
And I’m hardly the only one who's had trouble letting go.
Our whole culture remains wedded to an outdated idea of gender relations that stacks the deck against our happiness. He was now employed, he said, and was interested in reconnecting.
I’m confident that with time, our society is capable of reversing its course on traditional gender roles.